Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Viva Nicki

Holas, Chicas! I've decided to incorporate BOTDs (Beat of the day) where I just feature my makeup looks. I will still do some OOTDs. Wig season is approaching! You will be seeing some WOTDs, too.

This look was inspired by the 90s and female MCs. I immediately went for Nicki Minaj's first collaboration with MAC, Viva Glam Nicki, so that my lips could set the stage. More on how I achieved this look below:


Jewelry
KO Bamboo Earrings - ShopGLM.com
Protect Ya Necklace - ShopGLM.com
3 Stacks Boi Bangles - ShopGLM.com
H.E.R. Ring - ShopGLM.com

Face
Primer -Accidentally skipped it... never do that.
Eyeshadow, Blush, Contour - Almar Sales Co., Palettes from Five Below (I am a makeup novice on a budget; So yes, the inexpensive stuff is good for now)
Lips - MAC, shade Viva Glam Nicki
Lip Liner - Wet n' Wild ColorIcon Kohl Liner so faded that I can't read the shade. It's a dark, pinkish mauve
Lashes - Covergirl Queen Collection False Lash Drama, shade Very Black
Foundation - Covergirl Queen Collection Natural Hue Liquid Makeup, shade Q710 Classic Bronze
Powder - Clinique Stay-Matte Sheer Pressed Powder Oil-Free, shade 05 Stay Spice (D)
Highlighter - Bellapierre Shimmer Powder, shade SP031 Diverse
Brow - NYC Kohl Brow/Eyeliner Pencil, 925 Sable
Concealer - E.L.F., shade Light
Setting Spray - I ain't prime, so I ain't set.
If the look is cute and you rocking with it, let me know in the comments below. SMOOCHES XOXO

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

It's Complicated

Hello, Beautifuls! Last year, I wrote an ebook entitled Building My Village. My book simplifies the process of building one's network of relationships, especially if you are an introvert. In the excerpt below, I discuss the differences between healthy & uncomplicated relationships and unhealthy & complicated ones.

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When adults try to sort out what we know and learned about relationships, we tend to focus on categorizing our relationships based on situational vs. intentional or other similarly ranked categories. We tend to believe intentional relationships outrank situational relationships. Yet, we should really be asking ourselves “are my relationships healthy and uncomplicated?”


Healthy relationships are full, well-meaning, and enjoyable connections that promote good health and are absent from strife. Logically, unhealthy relationships are the opposite of the former. Unhealthy relationships are partial, ill-intentioned, and unbearable connections that promote poor health and are full of strife. The term “healthy” and the description of “promoting good health” aren’t just feel good words. Relationships really do shape our minds and emotion. Our minds and emotions control our bodily functions with the release of happy and stress hormones. Healthy relationships can make you feel better physically and prolong your life. Unhealthy relationships can cause headaches, body pains, and, extreme in cases, disease and death.

Complicated relationships are difficult and confusing connections due to interactions that are conditional. On the other hand, uncomplicated relationships are easy and simple connections due to interactions that are unconditional. We often describe our relationships as “it’s complicated.” Complications aren’t a state of being. Things don’t have to be complicated; complications are choices. If a complicated relationship is based on conditional interactions, that means someone is making choices based on the situation in favor of their emotions at the time. Whomever the complication is coming from, that person is not considering the other. In an uncomplicated relationship, all parties are considerate of the other parties. Interactions remain the same because the interactions aren’t based on how one may feel on that particular day. Unconditionally, the parties of an uncomplicated relationship strive for the connection to remain easy and simple no matter how complex and complicated their own life may be.

Healthy and uncomplicated are those beautiful twins, who are always in sync. Unhealthy and complicated are partners in crime. I have never seen an unhealthy relationship that wasn’t at some point introduced to complications. I can even say that a relationship being unhealthy is a complication in itself. Two people deciding to stay connected though they are emotionally and mentally tearing each other apart is difficult and confusing. If all parties aren’t working diligently to make the relationship healthy, maintaining the connection is especially inconsiderate towards one another. Healthy relationships allow you to live, laugh, and love. Uncomplicated relationships allow you to release worry, doubt, and apprehension toward others. You can love freely when you are not watching your back.

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Make sure you watch or listen to this Pretty x Inspiring Session to hear what I have to say about complicated and unhealthy relationships. SMOOCHES XOXO

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Monday, July 30, 2018

6 Black-Owned Banks for My Friends & Family

Hello, Wonderfuls! This is my first official Trill2Sense post! YAY!!! In these posts, I will be featuring lists of my favorite Black-Owned products and businesses.


Before I suggest products and things you should purchase with your hard-earned money, I feel I should first address where we keep our money. Black-Owned Banks are the pillars of Black communities. Yet, there are now less than 30 Black-Owned Banks left in our country. Meanwhile, your favorite "big bank" probably has up to 30 locations in one metropolitan city. While I know celebrities made an initial plea a few years ago, I am pleading with you again. We can’t let our institutions fade away.

Some Black-Owned Banks are doing better than others, expanding, and gaining national recognition. I am so glad to see Black communities and businesses flourish. However, the Black-Owned Bank in your city may be struggling. You may say “Well, I want my money in a bank that’s doing well and not struggling.” My answer: The Black-Owned Bank is struggling because the people it set out to serve won’t bank with them. If your local Black-Owned Bank is struggling but it is still open, confirm that it is FDIC insured and protected, and then go open an account. Make sure you intend to use that account monthly. Start that savings account for that trip you want or all those Black-Owned products you want to buy.

Therefore, I’m not listing the top Black-Owned Banks. I am listing the Black-Owned Banks that are near my family and friends. I am starting at home and urging my loved ones in Philadelphia, DC, The Gulf Coast, and North Carolina to BANK BLACK.

1. United Bank of Philadelphia – Philadelphia, PA


2. The Harbor Bank Baltimore, Maryland


3. City National Bank – Newark, New Jersey


4. Commonwealth National Bank – Mobile, Alabama


5. Industrial Bank – Washington D.C. (P.S. Marketing on AMAZING! Now I want an account!!)


6. M & F Bank – Durham, North Carolina


Once you open up your account at your local Black-Owned Bank, come back, comment below, and tell me all about it! I love us for real LOL… SMOOCHES XOXO
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African American buying power is at $1.1 trillion, yet only 2 cents of every dollar an African American spends comes back to the Black community. Once I learned this, I started Trill2Sense as a way for me to keep track of all the Black-Owned businesses I wanted to support.

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Sunday, July 29, 2018

This is an Alaïa!

Hello, Beautiful People! Yes, the title of this post is a Clueless reference. I have a very good reason for dwelling in nostalgia. The dress I'm wearing below reminds me so much of the dress that made Cher rethink a bullet. While my dress is not an Alaïa, it is very cute and it gives me 90s Beverly Hills Vibes. So check out how I styled my little red dress below:


Outfit
Little Red Dress - Hampton Nites, Thrifted
Distressed Jean Jacket - Lee Jeans, Thrifted
Fiery Fringe Earrings - ShopGLM.com
Midnight Marble Bracelet - ShopGLM.com
Silver & Gold Cobblestone Ring - ShopGLM.com
Stained Glass Bar Necklace - ShopGLM.com
Blue Suede Shoes - Potion-131 from Qupid



Face
Face Prep and Products by Jane Iredale (Thanks, Influenster!):
PurePressed® Base Mineral Foundation
BeautyPrep™ Face Cleanser
BeautyPrep™ Face Toner (THE BOMB)
BeautyPrep Face Moisturizer (The BOMB Again)
Pommist Hydration Spray (Setting Spray; The BOMBEST)

Lips - Attitude from Nude Matte Lipstick pack from Five Below
Eyeshadow - L.A. Colors 6 Color Metallic Eyeshadow BEP415 Eye Candy & E.L.F. Single Eyeshadow in Purple Passion

Any products you think I missed are probably listed HERE.


Alright, leave some product suggestions below. Did you love this look? SMOOCHES XOXO

Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Dating 101

Writing about dating and actually dating (from what I can remember) strangely gives me the same feelings: excited, scared, anxious, jittery, nervous, curious, and insane for having so many conflicting emotions. Dating is a tricky subject for me because I haven't been on a real one since before 2011. When I say a "real one," I mean an outing to a public place where both parties have acknowledged a mutual interest in one another and they both agree that this is, in fact, a date. You can read through those lines as much or as little as you want. Thanks to an article I just read on xoNecole.com, I've realized that I am not alone.

Prior to now, I haven't ever felt completely ready to date, even if I had a desire to date. I have truly been working on myself since December 2011. Looking back at how much I've grown, how much I accomplished, and how busy I've been, there's no wonder why I wasn't attracting anything of substance. And per the usual, the guys I liked never liked me back. I just don't think my availability was visible to the right men. Plus, I wasn't exactly focused on being available.

With my 28th birthday approaching, I truly feel ready to date and I am open to the possibility of a relationship. But there is one major dilemma: HOW DO I DATE IN 2018?


Mind you, I don't believe I've ever dated successfully or long enough to have old strategies to pull from and fine tune. I don't have any clue what to do. What do I say? Where do we go? What do I wear? And clearly, what is an acceptable age range I'm comfortable with? Because while I would love to get to know someone my age, it feels like I am only approached by men significantly younger or older than me. I am too old to be with someone still in college and I am too young for someone who has a child 5 years my junior. And don't forget the psychos, creeps, stalkers, weirdos, sex-obsessed, don't know how to keep their hands to themselves fools. Like, is dating even safe?

As the questions flow in, I begin to wonder if I even really want to date. These aren't easy questions to answer and my concerns are valid. Yet the more I think about dating and the risks I am willing to take to experience the love I'm seeing all up and down my timeline, I realize that once again hope is outweighing fear.

I'm so hopeful about dating in 2018 that my mind and heart are open. I know I will date available, non-creepy, normal, yet amazing men my age who verbalize an interest that is mutual and use the word "date" :) But I want to do this right and I need your help.

Remember Pretty x Inspiring is a conversation. I will give my tips and insight to your feedback in the upcoming video. In the meantime, I want to hear from you! In the comments below, tell me about your dating experiences. Give me your tips and strategies. Let me know what red flags I should look for. Let me know what I shouldn't and should do. Girls and Guys are welcome to chime in. This is Dating 101 and I am your attentive student. Hopefully, this conversation can not only help me but help other people who are trying to re-enter the dating scene.

I respect opinions but be respectful in your delivery in the comments section. SMOOCHES XOXO

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