Saturday, December 29, 2012

FOOD FOR THOUGHT: IT'S ONLY THE BEGINNING


Hello All! First, sorry for my lack of posts as I have been indulging in the merriment of the holiday season. Also I want to apologize for not finishing 25 Days of Christmas. Basically, it was a great idea that needed more preparation (than I normally give for any given post) and better content quality (more fashion on fashion). However, you can expect something very similar Christmas 2013 (Yes I am already planning!).

Secondly, I am so happy to shift into a new year. I know things aren't going to magically change on January 1st but for the first time in my life I am making plans and setting goals I am excited about and I am following through. I am growing in many ways: My career and fashion knowledge is growing, my philanthropic efforts are increasing, I am networking and building genuine connections with wonderful new people, my spiritual walk with Christ is getting healthier and I can talk about it.

All in all, I feel free! I have been broken for a long time and I have been trying to fix myself for years. But I think it is time for me to pick the pieces up and hand them to someone who can fix me. I love Jesus, I love the fact that his love is unconditional. But I had a hard time sharing this because I am not perfect. I have done some things and experienced some things that I felt could never be forgiven, that could never be washed away, that would always be thrown in my face no matter how "perfect" I tried to be.

Now if you aren't spiritual or Christian, it's OK. Please take this from my message today: It is never too late to begin again. Every period in our life won't be smooth sailing. However, it is how we recover and push forward in those hard times that make us better equipped for greater things coming. I looked to people (men, other girls who I envied) to validate me when I could have spent that time qualifying myself and focusing on things in my own life. I have learned so much this past year. And yes, this may be Epiphany Number 251 but everyone needs to hear this. The key to letting go of regret, bitterness, incompetence, envy, and anything else distracting you is to focus on the plans you have for your life and the dreams tugging on your heart. Once you are diligently seeking something, everything else not in line with it won't be worth your time in the larger scheme of things. You will be too busy and everything not important will slowly fade away. We can't let those emotions control us and dictate our next moves.

So my goals for 2013 are slightly different this year. As always, I will strive to be a better Elisa. But instead of worrying about my progress compared to others and what I feel I lack, I will embrace that this is a new beginning for me and that by diligently seeking Christ and major career moves, I am making a conscious decision to free myself of anything that will make me feel as if I am being held back when I know I possess all the power I need to move forward. I am not perfect but I am going to do my best no matter what happened in my past.

I hope this wasn't too long. But I hope it influences your new year. SMOOCHES XOXO

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

#FORWARD

Congratulations to President Barack Obama on his re-election! I don't know about you, but I am ready to move #Forward! SMOOCHES XOXO

Sunday, October 21, 2012

FOOD FOR THOUGHT: GRACE FOR WHAT'S NEXT

Hello Beautiful People! I hope you are having a good day because I am. I am very excited for the new and exciting things happening on this blog. I just added a new relationship blogger, Sasha Christina, who is really going to provide a great perspective into a girl's heart and give Carrie Bradshaw a run for her money. I am also adding a new campaign where I share my favorite bloggers so that you can fall in love with them as I have. I have many more ideas and tricks up my sleeve. I am just excited for what's next.

Excitement and anticipation is awesome but in the past the unknown would weigh more heavily on my heart. While I was so excited for improvement and progression, I used to get worried and doubtful. This would lead to me comparing myself to other bloggers, not blogging at all and blaming it on writer's block, or trying to change my content to fit what is working for others. Does this behavior seem familiar?

Well today, I wanted to let you know that I am wiping away any traces of worry and doubt. I have to keep my mind concentrated on what I would like to achieve. In all areas of your life, I want to encourage you to utilize all of your power and potential. In the words of my Bishop, you have to remove the bulwarks from around your mind and stop believing that you are not strong enough, pretty enough, smart enough, or talented enough. What you lack, seek it out, ask for it, and work to get it. If anything at all, I hope you have enough grace for what's next. I hope that you believe that you possess all you need to succeed in your next, greater phase in your life. I am learning to think outside of the box I have been living in. And if you are going to continue to read along, I would like for you to follow suit. I love you! SMOOCHES XOXO

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

A LETTER TO MYSELF

Hello all! Senior year of high school was a very trying year for me in many ways but I made it through purely on grace. In my AP English class, I had an assignment to write a letter to myself four years from now, well then. I don't even remember writing the letter I wrote in May 2008 but I am so glad it came. It really just put my life in perspective about how blessed I am and how far I have came. I did not edit it; I wanted it to be real for everyone and transparent so that others can learn from it. The fact that most of what I wrote came to pass and that I was alive to read it, I know that I continue to ride on the wings of grace. Here is what I wrote:

"Dear Elisa,

Four years from now, I expect you to be graduating from Shaw or Spelman (hopefully Spelman) and just ready to take the world by storm. By this point, your business, Girls Like Me, should be booming and you should be done with your first book. You will still be best friends with Blayre and Bethany and you would have probably gained life long ones by now. If you don't have a man, oh well you figured that much. And hopefully still a virgin. LOL! (True Love Waits, for real though). If you do have man, yay! I know he has to be everything God has made him to be for you. Hopefully, you and mommy have a better relationship and maybe things are better or getting there with your father. Hopefully, your old Grannies who you love dearly are still around and kicking. And hopefully, you are closer with all your siblings: Senwan, Shaun, Senette, and Caleb. Most of all, I hope that your life will be going in the direction that you wanted it to. I hope that you have grew in some areas but for the most part is still the same, strong lady that you were born ♥. I hope that God has just kept his hands on you and that only doors can open, only mountains can move, and only giants can fall. I hope that the past four years has prepared you for the next prosperous four years.

Sincerely,
Elisa K. Wiah"

SMOOCHES XOXO


Tuesday, May 1, 2012

WHO LOVES YOU, BABY?!

Hello! I have been gone too long right?! I am trying to get it all together; I have been too busy for words. However, I did want to pause and just soak in all the positivity around my life. I am just so happy for my friends and family who are falling in love, in love, getting married, and having babies. I am happy that they are experiencing love in these various phases and I am glad they are blessed. While I am happy for my friends and family, a small evil voice likes to pop in and tries to have me compare myself to those around me. I begin to think: "Should I be having babies now?", "Should I be dating now?", "Should I be married?", "Why aren't I experiencing that?", and "When will I?" Have you ever felt that way? Well I just want you to know that I drown that voice out every time. I know that things will happen in my life when the time is right. I am so focused on pursuing a career that I wouldn't be able to love a man and baby as fully as I should. I have love in other forms. My family and friends love me. When people get to know me, they love me. People love my spirit. I genuinely love all people. And most importantly I LOVE MYSELF. I say it so much but its only because it took me too long to realize it. No one should go through life not realizing how much love is surrounding their life. Matter of fact, if you take a good look at what's surrounding you, love is probably chasing you and wanting you to share more of yourself with the world. As my grandmother would say, "Who loves you, baby?!" You're answer should be "I love myself sugar!" And don't ever forget that I love you too ;) Thanks for reading! SMOOCHES XOXO

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

20,000 STRONG

I am deeply moved to talk to you all today. I just feel extremely blessed about my life and the direction it is taking. I am glad I am following my heart. I question myself everyday and ask if I made the right decision to follow my dreams. But these moments make it all the more better!


This wonderful fashion blog has finally reached 20,000 pageviews! Not a big deal to many but here are a few reasons why it is to me:

1. Only reached 100th blog post in August, after over a year of the blog's creation. The blog was a little over 10,000 pageviews. Today, we are at 149 posts; Productivity is up 50% and Viewers are up 100%.
2. I am not famous or overly special in anyway. Yet people actually appreciate and value my opinion.
3. I've had very vivid visions and ideas this week about writing a post about reaching 20,000 pageviews.
4. I wanted to quit a few times because I felt I was living in a fantasy land by thinking I could do this for the rest of my life and grow it into a career.
5. I have been praying for signs that I am doing the right thing by following my heart.
6. I DID IT!!!!! By Myself!!!!!
7. I love everyone who has ever clicked the link to my blog, gave me a shout out, retweeted my links, didn't unfollow me for spamming my blog all up and down your timeline.
8. IT'S NOT OVER.

So there you have it! I am going to keep blogging and I am going to keep being inspired. My message to everyone is to do what you love because peace and happiness comes slowly when you follow your heart. But foolishness and unhappiness comes as fast as a bat out of hell when you don't! Love you, SMOOCHES XOXO


Wednesday, February 8, 2012

FOOD FOR THOUGHT: BE MINE, VALENTINE!



Yes, Valentine's Day is approaching. And I am actually very happy! Why, you ask? I am not expecting candy and flowers. No, I don't have a beau or someone special in my life. I am aboslutely not crushing on anyone at the moment. But I am glad I really love everything about myself. I spent most of junior high and all of high school not being confident in myself. Not believing that I was worthy. Ladies, I just want to encourage you not ... Read the full post here.

Monday, January 9, 2012

MY 2012 RESOLUTION

What's up folks?! I pray all is well with you because I am great. I just posted my first web show... yay! I am super excited that I accomplished it and you can check it out here. Now let's get down to the nitty gritty. I have one new years resolutions I need to claim. I love my blog and the emotional release I get from this exercise. If I never make any money from it, it wouldn't phase me. However, I think I am doing myself a disservice by not devoting enough time to expanding my blog. Therefore my goal is to blog at least once a day this year and I want to have 365+ entries by December 31, 2012. I have so much creativity in me and I have way more to give. More people should know about my blog. I just want to touch hearts. So that is all folks. Love and Dueces. SMOOCHES XOXO