Tuesday, April 29, 2014

FOOD FOR THOUGHT: PURVEYOR OR HATER

Hola Loves!!! I really don't believe in haters. I know they exist, but I try not to be one or associate with any. So, in my book, you are a non-factor if you are purposely, consistently hating on people. With that being said, I just want to encourage you if haters are running in your life. If you decide to do anything, stand for something, or you follow your own mind, people are going to have something to say. If you do the exact opposite of everything I just listed, people are still going to have something to say. I experience it daily. Trust, the shade in my life as a Christian and Blogger from other Christians and Bloggers is super real. But surprisingly, it rarely affects me. I will admit, I am sensitive and emotional because I like to influence people positively. When I do something to affect them negatively (most times, I have no idea what that "something" is), I feel like a bad person and that I was misunderstood when I just wanted to be accepted. Well, those are natural feelings. But I channel my emotions into energy and I fuel my future. I no longer take things too personally and I try my best to move forward. I focus on my work. I just think about building my brand, creating new ideas and business models, and to just keep climbing. Not to show-off or to prove your haters wrong, but to simply have your life focused. Sometimes, you have to have tunnel vision and speed past everyone who is spurring their opinions your way.

I've realized there are 3 Reasons why people hate: 1) They are trying to help, 2) They are jealous/don't like you, and 3) They do it to everybody (mom, brother, puppy) and you are no respect of person. Doesn't that make you feel better knowing that their hating has nothing to do with you but their mental instability to not focus on their own lives. God wants us to be purveyors of truth and love. You can spread the truth about Christ just by being nice to people, encouraging them, and not saying anything if you have nothing nice to say. SIMPLE. Before you start getting deep with folks, check yourself and your delivery. It takes a special spirit to tell people the whole truth about Christ without that person turning the mirror back on their flaws but instead being convicted in their spirit enough to recognize a messenger from Christ. I am so quick to tell you, I love Jesus Christ but who am I without him but an empty, wretched vessel? I am not a preacher, a deacon, or any other title that screams Holy. I am a human being who knows where her help comes from! So therefore, I seek Christ, share what I know for sure, and I purvey love. I think if we all, me especially, would spend less time on haters, we could focus on ourselves and lead by example. Don't be a Hater; Be a Purveyor. SMOOCHES XOXO

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

FOOD FOR THOUGHT: AFTER YOU MAKE A MISTAKE

Hello All! I wrote this a few months ago when I made a mistake that was eating me alive.

I was mad at myself because it was something I've been praying about; I really want God to remove it from my heart. Among many issues that I have, recently I have come into this habit of talking about people. I never used to talk about people. I am in a place where I feel lonely and I have felt alone for a long time. I tried to open up but I feel like people were using me, making assumptions, and talking about me behind my back. Well, hurt people hurt people. I still have to be around those same people and it is hard for me to shake the bitterness and it is beginning to have no respect of person. I am still technically alone here and I don't really have any close friends to confide in. Emotionally, I word vomit and it is killing me but I do it anyway. It's like I finally get an open ear and someone to listen to me. Only to find, they really don't care and telling them was really a big mistake.Trust me, I am not making excuses for myself. I AM WRONG for talking about people. It is not right Period. Point. Blank. But thank God, I serve Jesus Christ. He forgives me of my sins and I can pick up my cross again today and try harder to have a purer heart. Now, if your mistakes aren't eating you alive, you know you are just going to do it again, and you don't want to try, than this blog post isn't for you. This blog post is for those who have been convicted in their spirits because God is trying to pick the bad things out of their heart, while molding and shaping them for their futures. Here are a few tips to help you recover from mistakes:

1. Acknowledge you made a mistake. As soon as I had slipped and said what was truly in my emotions, I knew I was wrong. I apologized and said "you know, what I just said wasn't right. I shouldn't have done that." God can't correct you unless you open up your heart and let Him. If you tell Him you want to change, He is going to start showing you the things you need to change. Confess it to Him because He already knows. He just wants to be sure that you realize it's not of Him and that it has to go.

2. No one sin is bigger than the other. If you are measuring sin, yours compared to someone elses, your little sins compared to the big ones you've been delivered from, you might as well start measuring the steps to heaven and hell. Then weigh the amount of love it takes for one to die for the sins of countless people He knows who will sin perpetually until the end of time. In order to get closer to Christ, you have to know His heart and want to mirror what's in it. Not one sin is in His heart so each and every last sin hurts Him. Conviction doesn't work if you don't accept the severity of your actions.

3. Pray. Pray and ask God to give you a pure and clean heart. Ask Him to remove everything that is not like Him. Ask God to move in its place. Tell Him to give you wisdom to find better ways to deal with the void that what you did was suppose to fill or cover up. I've been praying for a while about gossiping and God finally caught me in my tracks about it. I am learning to roll all my cares off of me and on to Christ in prayer.

4. Speaking of  voids, you have to Guard Your Heart from negative seeds. There is always a void where a seed was planted from which sins and mistakes stem from. You have to be careful what you listen to and what you watch because it all affects your heart. Like I stated earlier, I felt alone and I felt like everyone was against me. I began to do what I thought everyone was doing to me. Where did I get that from? Probably from some reality show with housewives spreading rumors amongst each other about each other. Or better yet, some love song with a line that goes something like "I want you to feel how I felt." We are to love each other, even when someone does you wrong. Revenge is the Lord's, not ours. Now the scripture seed is one to plant.

5. Read your bible. Like I just said, plant scripture seeds in your heart. If you keep an arsenal of scriptures handy for anything you are going through, you will begin to not turn to your sinful nature or make mistakes you have made before. You will instead begin to triumph over the tests and trials because you have researched how someone else passed or failed the same test in the bible. EVERYTHING is in the bible. They hide the truth in books people :)

6. Don't beat yourself up. I am the worst with this. It's hard for me to recover from the bad things I've done, even after I have done all of the above. But then I remember that Jesus died on the cross for every sin I will ever make. Beating myself up about it is equivalent to not believing that He heals the broken. I am not saying take advantage of His gift of forgiveness but I am saying don't waste time dwelling on the past. I began to see my mistakes as lessons, I learn from them, and I do my work so I can have a better chance of passing the test the next time it comes around. You gotta move forward in your walk.

In life, you are going to do bad things, sin, and make mistakes every day. But everyday you have to trust God, learn, roll your cares on to Him, pick up your cross, and you two keep walking. And classically put, it's not the mistakes you make but how you recover from them. Let's recover with grace from anything that had us bound! Jesus Loves You, SMOOCHES XOXO

Monday, April 14, 2014

THE NEW MISS ELISA K.


I am Unashamed about my relationship with Christ... but only recently. And only because I finally realized that I had to include him in everything, including the blog. This blog is me. I started the blog to chronicle my journey into the fashion industry but God had other plans. The blog, in turn, began to chronicle my growth, my real life, and my emotions. I showcased the things that influence my thinking daily. I'm finally at a point where I am tired of fighting God on my purpose. He wants me to talk about Him. He wants me to make Him the focal point of all I do. I have realized that I know nothing at all about life and what it means. I have to re-learn everything and it is shaking up my world like no other. Nothing is normal. My relationships are falling apart and some are growing stronger. Even though I finally know who I am in Christ, I have absolutely no idea what is supposed to evolve from this point of realization. All I know is that Christ influences my thoughts, my life, my creativity, the music I listen to, my interest in fashion, my passions, and my daily life. I just want people to know that whatever you think about me or have made up in your mind about Elisa, erase it. Honestly, everyday, no matter how yesterday went, I enter into my daily interactions with every human, no matter what religion they profess, with an understanding that we are all children of God. I am an imperfect child of God and serve Jesus Christ with my whole life. I fall, yes. I stumble, yes. I try my best, yes. Don't give up on whatever you feel is divinely and spiritually propelling you forward. This is me not giving up when I feel I have every reason to. I thank Jesus for this platform and opportunity. Thank you for reading. I want to infect you with the Love of Christ. If you can feel Him when you reach the home page, that's all that matters. I am not erasing old posts because they signify the fact that we all have a past and that Christians are real people who make real mistakes who live real lives who made a decisions to have a real relationship with the real  Jesus Christ.
So thank you for everything and I hope you enjoy The NEW Miss Elisa K.