Friday, July 31, 2015

#FOODFORTHOUGHT: 5 RULES FOR ENJOYING YOUR LIFE

Hey Folks! As I stated in a past post, I just celebrated my 25th birthday! I am so excited about what the Lord has in store for me. Now that I am finally coming into my own, I just really want to enjoy my life. I say I am going to do so every year but I never do. I don't want anything to hold me back from just doing whatever I want to do (that is pleasing in the sight of God, of course). To truly enjoy life, I know I must renew my mind and the way I operate my daily life. Well I came up with 5 rules, or reminders, for me to stay in my "Enjoy Life" zone.


1. Be a dedicated Believer in Jesus Christ. There is no joy or true fulfillment if Christ is not the forefront. And I said dedicated believer. In order to enjoy my life, I just can't engage in fellowship with Him at Bible Study and Sunday Service, no matter how busy I get. I have to keep my personal relationship with Him tight. I have to seek Him and stay in His word daily. I have to continue to serve Him in the capacities He has instructed me to. Enjoying Life is not synonymous with lessening the "Jesus Effect" over my life (as many do this to seek enjoyment from worldly outlets). If anything, your walk with Jesus has to intensify in order to look past all the trouble in the world and in your life to value true enjoyment.

2. Don't worry about what you don't have. This one is going to be a hard one for me but I have seen many improvements in this area of my life since I gave it to the Lord. I am a recovering worrier and I worry about everything! Money (or the lack thereof) is a major trigger for me. People think I am frugal because I am good with money. I realized I was frugal because I didn't trust God to do what He told me He was going to do when I prayed to Him about why I didn't have any money years ago. This worry has seeped over into my thoughts about future relationships and plans for my life. I had to realize that life is short. It could end tomorrow while I am worrying about something that hasn't happened yet. Plus, God holds my life in His hands. I am trusting Him now to provide everything I need to make it DAILY. Yes, I have opportunities daily to worry but I choose to trust Him instead. I want to go on trips, look pretty while doing so, and experience quality living. If it is God's will for me to enjoy my life (which it is), I know He will provide if I ask and seek Him. Don't worry; trust Jesus.

3. Embrace the unknown. I just told y'all I was a worrier. So unknown things used to really bother me. I don't even like to not know what the driving directions are when I get in the car. But I now look at the unknown differently. As I grow closer to Jesus in my personal walk with Him, He divulges more and more information to me about His Word and about my future. I now look at the unknown as an opportunity to let the Lord pour into me. And I figure if the Lord hasn't told me about it yet, than that means He has it under control without my help or knowledge. It is freeing to know and realize that the Lord truly has His hand on all things, known and unknown, concerning you. Enjoy every moment and relish in the fact that this awesome moment will lead to the next even if you don't know what that may be yet.

4. Live. Laugh. Love. LIVE your life. Do new and interesting things. Make time for yourself. Explore your God given passions and skills. Live the great life Christ has in mind for you. LAUGH at everything. Don't take yourself too seriously. I was always so serious. Many times I look back and think, "What a waste of time I could've spent having fun." Be happy and provoke happiness in others with a kind spirit. LOVE everyone. Now is not the time to shut down your heart. Be smart with your heart but don't be afraid to love people. Let people in after praying to God for discernment.  Do things to show your love for the people in your life you know love you back. Christ loves you so that you can spread His love.

5. Keep His Peace. Simply put, No Fight Fight. It can be difficult at times but thank God that you have the power to control your emotions and to practice self-discipline. Only through the peace of God will you be able to enjoy this awesome life of new experiences you just asked for. Things will always happen to anger or annoy you. Peace is a practice that must be harnessed within one's own mind and spirit. Don't let those emotions steal your peace. I could be eating ice cream sundaes on a yacht with my homies Jesus, Tupac, Beyonce, and my future husband wearing Louboutin shoes I didn't pay for, and eating grapes out of my Birkin bag. But if I let the captain's hacking cough over the speaker for 5 hours make me irritable, I missed the chance to enjoy and revel in the moment. Instead, focus on making and taking your own peace wherever you go.

I hope that these rules and reminders were helpful. Please let me know if you have any other good ones. I am serious about really embracing and living life to the fullest. As Christians, we will suffer and endure trouble on this earth. However, there is another side of God that is prosperous in joy, peace, love, self-discipline, and even riches. All of those things are heavenly and he does want to share those things with you. You have to give God your whole heart first. And then you really have to trust Him even when it doesn't look like nothing heavenly is going to happen for you. Trust in your Lord. SMOOCHES XOXO

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Saturday, July 25, 2015

#FOODFORTHOUGHT: 25 DOWN, AN ETERNITY TO GO

"For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16 NLT)


Hey People! My birthday has come, and it came pretty fast. So much has happened in a year; 24 was a whirlwind. However, I learned so much about myself. I really grew in my relationship with Christ. I began to live out what I've been called to do and I have been doing it the way in which the Lord has instructed me to. I really had to trust God this year. I really had to lean on God. I had to grow a tougher skin. I had to get used to being alone yet content with the season. In the past, I have always been alone. I've had more seasons being alone than I've had with lots of people in my life. But in those seasons, I was always depressed, sad, lonely, and angry with God. At this point in my life, I have matured and I realized that if God put me in a season it is for a reason and for my best interest. Am I comfortable? Nah. But I now want to be wherever the Lord wants me to be. I have real joy. I find myself smiling for no reason; I'm still working on smiling more often but baby steps :) I am grateful. I am more open-minded and less judgmental. I am forgiving others, forgiving myself, giving situations to God, and really letting go. I like how I look and I love myself. I still have to work on my people pleasing and worrying about what people think of me and my decisions. But even that has improved because I know in my heart I am seeking God and letting Him lead every action. So instead of feeling criticized, I just remind myself that these aren't Elisa decisions, these are God decisions. I understand that my steps are ordered by Him. Clearly, I couldn't have orchestrated anything that has happened in my life. So if people don't understand it, don't like it, or think I should take it a different route, they are now questioning God's will and not my plans. This year I realized, I have no plan. I wish I really did. I have a plan but I don't know what God is going to do. Not having a tangible plan in business confuses people so I know I have to put something on paper lol. However, this is God's baby that He allowed me to birth. So whatever He tells me to change, I am going to yield. Finally, literally a few days ago, I erased the numbers. You know, the numbers of the guys who you hope will miraculously think you are the one one day because they would be perfect for you. You communicate periodically to make sure you stay in their wavelength. I realized that I'm not fully trusting God with my love life by doing this. Plus, those men don't want me if they know me and still aren't pursuing me. It was hard but I really don't want my heart filled with mess. 24 was the year of development. The Lord really cleaned out my heart and yo it wasn't pretty. But it had to be done! And I am glad I just let the Lord take the reigns and I let go. I just got tired of the same cycles and generational curses. These things can't go where the Lord is going to take me in 25.

25. I am humbled. So many exciting and big things are happening! I am happy and grateful because the Lord is confirming what He told me and He is beginning to show me new things. For a minute, I wanted to be excited but I felt a cloud over everything. Every birthday past, I would get really depressed and lonely. I now realize that many of my friendships when I was younger were situational. So it was difficult to have huge birthday parties with tons of your school friends in the heart of summer. But the inferiority and loneliness of those summer birthdays, led into my young adulthood. I just didn't like my birthday. I wanted to celebrate but I never saw the point in doing so alone. Back to the present, there are always stressful issues that come along with the good things in your life. I almost thought that those stressful things were the clouds. But those were just tests. "The cloud" was the spirit of depression that came on schedule to lay on me as it does every year. The tests I went through recently were tests I failed in the past. As a result, those situations would cause the spirit of depression to fall on me. But not this time! I passed the tests. And depression will not lay on me and hover my birthday. Everything isn't perfect, but I thank God for life. When I want to think about all the bad things, I say this word: TEMPORARY. This life is so short. God sent me and YOU here to be an ambassador for Jesus Christ. More than I want money, a house, friends, and a man, I want to praise the Lord in eternity forever! So that means here on earth, I can't be distracted. I have to focus on Christ. I can't even focus too much on what the people in my life are doing. I can love them, minister to them, and support them as the Lord leads me. However, when I get to heaven and its just me and God, I have to answer for all of my actions. I have to do me. And doing me means following Jesus.

So 25 is turn up time. I am about to turn up my faith and turn up my prayer life. I am really going to continue to love Elisa, learn how to better myself, and take care of myself. I am going to enjoy my life as my workload has already been turned up. I have to live life, enjoy it, and not complain about not doing so. I have so much expectancy for 25. I just really want God's will to be done in my life. The difference from this year in comparison to every other year, my eyes are set on Christ and eternity. My eyes aren't focused on "what can I do to get where I want to be?" My mindset this year is "Lord, what do You want me to do to get where You want me to be?" So 25 years of life down, and now an eternity to go. SMOOCHES XOXO

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Sunday, July 19, 2015

#FOODFORTHOUGHT: #LOVE ONE ANOTHER

This is the message you have heard from the beginning: We should love one another. We must not be like Cain, who belonged to the evil one and killed his brother. And why did he kill him? Because Cain had been doing what was evil, and his brother had been doing what was righteous. So don’t be surprised, dear brothers and sisters, if the world hates you. (1 John 3:11-13 NLT)


Hey Sugar Muffins! First of all, I apologize for lateness. I will start blogging ahead so that I won't fall behind. Secondly, I have been going through it in a very confusing way. Awesome things and opportunities are coming. However, I just have been feeling not excited. I don't feel proud of my accomplishments. Everything seems to be clouded with worry and doubt. Through it all, I am trying to stay positive and move forward. The Lord continues to assure me that He is in control of everything and I am grateful that He loves me. But besides Him and my family, it feels like no one else does.

With that being said, loneliness has tried to creep into this year. I am very grateful for my 2 big cousins, my grandma, and my besties in North Carolina as they have always been there for me and I know they will continue to be. However, it is at times hard to relate to them as no one seems to be in the same stage of life that I am. Plus, I'm very devoted to my ventures which often occupys my life and time. Friends who have been close to me and who I felt I could relate to have turned their backs on me and walked out of my life. It feels like they have declared World War III against my character and my business.

Even though I've been hurt, I don't want to give up on love or people. I have always had a desire to have good friends in my life who were there for me and vice versa. I probably desired great friendships more than I ever desired to get married or be in a relationship. But not being in a romantic relationship, being approached by men who I am not interested in, and being ignored by the men that I am interested in has taken its toll as well. I feel alone at church. I feel alone at work. I feel like no one likes me. No one loves me. I am undesirable. There's something I am not doing right. I'm a horrible person. Why not me? Lord do you favor them over me? Lord you must not love me?

Yet, I always catch myself and I begin to pray. "Lord, show me Your love for me. I forgive and I pray that I am forgiven. I wish prosperity and a full life for those who are no longer in my life. Lord, I want Your will to be done in my life. If I did anything wrong  or that is not like You in this situation, Lord convict me and change my heart. I know that this is just a season. Help me to love others. Help me to love myself. Help me to love You. I know that feelings are temporary and not all sent by You. I cast down those demonic feelings and I put my full trust in You. Lord, heal me from brokeness so that I can pour out the love in me onto others who will recieve. Help me not to take it personal if I am not well received. Lord, my life is Yours. My heart is Yours. Your will be done. I will love who You tell me to love. I will have the relationships You ordain me to have and when You ordain for me to have them. I trust You with my love life and friendships. I am not alone because I do have people in my life who love me. But most of all I know that You love me. You will never forsake me. You will always be there for me. I love You forever. Amen."

If you feel anything like a feel, read that last passage aloud to yourself. It is a hard pill to swallow but it is a pill that you need to take. We often forget that loving others isn't about reciprocation. If that were the case, Christ wouldn't have died on the cross for us. We can never repay Him for his love and He knew it. Don't seek love because you want be loved in returned. We are to love because it is commanded to do so. Ask God to remove evil from your heart. Ask the Lord to help you to love again. When you are hurt by people, it's not God's will for you to build a wall to protect yourself but to turn to Christ so that He can heal you so that you can love again. We have to remember that the love we feel isn't for ourselves. Love is for others, to be given away, and to even be taken. Love One Another. SMOOCHES XOXO


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Sunday, July 12, 2015

#FOODFORTHOUGHT: JESUS, BRAND CONSULTANT

Hey Baes! Sorry for the delay. I have been very busy with Girls Like Me, Inc. and this here blog. Mostly, I've been trying to just sculpt my brand. After years, the Lord has finally showed me the things that I do well and what my niche is. And in everything that represents me, I know that simutaneously He wants people to clearly know that it is a representation of Him and having God in control of my life.

With that being said, think about your own brand. Even if you are just a brand of who you are (a very important brand which needs more attention) aka your reputation, what do you represent?

So we are Christ's ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, "Come back to God!" (2 Corinthians 5:20)

Miss Elisa K., The Blog is a Christian Blog Lifestyle Blog. The Lord instructed me to make this blog solely about Him and those living for Him. On the other hand, the Lord instructed me to not hide my faith when it comes to Girls Like Me, Inc. but also not to exclude young women of other religions. He may use this platform to reach young girls of other religions who may not know about Christ. Either way, I've given up the desire to be recognized or even to make money. My brand is about spreading the love of Christ to the young women I mentor and to the readers of my blog. My brand is to use all that God has poured into to me and pour it out for others to partake. My brand is not my own, it's the Lord's.

So again I ask, what does your brand say about you? We are to be ambassodors for Christ. Is your life/brand making an appeal for Christ and pleading to others to come back to Him? The world wants you to brand for your own self gains and interests but God wants your personal brand to help and inspire others. Followers of Christ, let's make sure God is in the forefront of all you do. Everyone won't agree or even think that it is smart to make Christ the forefront. But clearly, they don't know our God. There is so much favor once you decide your whole life is God's and for His work only. Ambassadors for Christ. SMOOCHES XOXO

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Wednesday, July 1, 2015

#FOODFORTHOUGHT: TIME OUT

Hey Cuties! I was casually reading Numbers 21 the other day; I wasn't in study, "I gotta get a word" mode. However, the Lord still gave me a word though (Thank you Jesus!). I often talk about the times we suffer purely due to persecution, living for Christ, and enduring life's uncontrollable occurrences. Yet, I rarely touch on the times in which we suffer because of our own disobedience.

For a very quick and brief summary, the Israelites are traveling in the wilderness in Numbers 21. They came to a town and they asked the Lord to help them to overcome their enemy. Of course, the Lord came through. But as soon as the Lord gave them the victory over that situation (basically, not to let them get killed in them wilderness streets), they began to complain about the journey and about the quality of the food they had to eat. Really?! The Lord just saved your life and the future of your inheritance but you are upset that you don't have what you want to eat?! No sense. Apparently, the Lord thought they had lost their minds also because he sent down poisonous snakes that bit and killed many of them. But our gracious God always provides a way for us to escape, even when we bring the drama on ourselves.

Then the Lord told him, “Make a replica of a poisonous snake and attach it to a pole. All who are bitten will live if they simply look at it!” (Number 21:8 NLT)

What I thought was most interesting was that the Lord gave them a bronzed replica to look at to be healed. At first, my mind went immediately to them melting gold to make idols and I didn't understand why the Lord would give them a statue to activate their healing.

Soon after this thought, I had another. A replica is a copy; it is not a replacement for something. And the value of bronze is far less than gold as it is made of two inexpensive metals. This wasn't a statue they could kneel to; it was high on a pole that forced them to look up. The Lord didn't create an idol. The Lord created a memorial.

Often times as Christians, we think that we are always supposed to get the victory and we begin to blame God and question His authority in our lives when things don't go as we want them to. The Lord may have just allowed you to whip some major demons in your spirit. But then you are ungrateful because you don't have a new car yet and you have to catch the bus. Is God not good because you only got one victory today and not two?

Initially, I was going to call this post "When Pain Heals" because the Lord used the very thing that caused you harm to be your healing. Many times when we make an effort to really examine what we've been through, we are forced to look up to God for the healing we need. For instance, I know that many times I went through because I was having sex outside of marriage after I made a promise to the Lord that I would remain pure. I went through so much pain with the immediate aftermath that I had to look up to God. No one or nothing else could heal me. After some time,  I was left with the memorials of low self-esteem, insecurity, depression, loneliness, fear, and abandonment. Those memorials really forced me to look at my sin and my actions. It forced me to look at how I treated God when I knew better. It forced me to really look at the stuff that caused me pain even though I didn't want to revisit it because my heart was finally healing. When we bring pain on ourselves, it doesn't just hurt us. We hurt God.

On the flipside, sometimes we really need a time out. We are so out of pocket. I think the Lord had to remind the Israelites who's the boss. You are stuck in the wilderness because of your own disobedience. You are eating manna as a byproduct of having to walk in the wilderness. You've been here for years and it was supposed to take you few days. Let's not forget you made idols to replace God and disrespected His leaders on several occasions. With all of your foolishness, He is still letting you live, fighting your battles, and listening to your cries. Yet Israelites, you have the nerve to complain about what you don't have. Saints, we take God for granted. We don't acknowledge where He has brought us from when He brings us out of our own mess. We want Him to bless us with things and riches we did not earn or tarry for. Then we get mad, we doubt His plan for our lives, and we complain. Saints, you need a time out!

I am so guilty and I think the Lord gave me this world to check myself. Yes, we love God. God is amazing. God is righteous. But do we really respect Him? Do we respect the discipline that He places on our lives? When we doubt God, talk against Him, and complain over what He has done for us, we are disrespecting Him. When children are disrespectful and act out, they are put in time out. You have to sit, reflect, stare at a blank wall (or should I say your lowliness of self; our lives are a blank wall without God who gives us our colors), and think about the mistake you made. Spiritually, God will give you a timeout by allowing things to hit your life and humble you.

So folks, heal and remain humble. Let's not continue to disrespect the power of our Holy Father with our complaints of lack when we have already won without even having to battle. He told us that it was the Lord's. The things we deal with here on earth aren't the battle. This life we live is sometimes hard for us. But it is not a surprise nor is it hard for our God. No need to complain and go against God if you know He got you. R.E.S.P.E.C.T. SMOOCHES XOXO

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