Thursday, September 24, 2015

Debate over the term "Soul Tie" and Biblical Inaccuracy

Hey Fam! I use the word "soul tie" to reference when one is emotionally and/or sexually "bound" to someone. I really don't now better words to describe "soul ties" or "bondage." I mustn't lie, I heard the term "soul tie" through my favorite women's ministry. I don't just run with anything preachers say but I felt the term accurately expressed what I was going through. "Soul ties" seemed to be the perfect term for my yearning for people I felt constantly connected to (this will just have to do) emotionally and/or sexually no matter how much I prayed for healing.

So today, I am listening to the women's ministry's latest video and the speaker mentions that there is debate that the term or concept isn't a biblical one but she will continue to use the term (I am paraphrasing and interpreting; please don't come for my neck). So the ministry also referred people to a  biblical research website that answers questions. I like the website because you get the facts and I always have questions about things I read in the bible. Always. The website does add in ministry by commentating, elaborating, and solidifying the author's point-of-view of leading people to Jesus Christ. So I immediately go to the website to see what it has to say.

In summary, the article says that "soul tie" is not a biblical term and not used in the bible. The article also says that the general definition of the term has come to include dividing of one's soul or fragmentation. The article does add biblical backing of scriptures used to defend the concept that are used out of context (1 Samuel 18:1; Proverbs 1:10, 15; 1 Corinthians 6:16).

This convicted me at first. I was about to defend why I feel so comfortable saying "soul tie" and why I will probably continue to use the word. So much so, I was going to use two of the website's own articles on soul links and one flesh to defend my stance. However, my flesh and intellectual yet argumentative part of my brain calmed down. I moved those things out of the way, and the Lord began to speak to my spirit.

When you study the Word of God, you have to really move in the Holy Spirit. The Bible has to convict you and change your heart. That's the point. If you aren't convicted and don't want to be convicted, you will cease to get new revelation from God and the Living Word. The Word of God is living and breathing. If you really read and study, you can see how anything on this Earth can be explained in the Bible in any generation. The Word doesn't change but you can always learn something new from it and it is always applicable

As far as conviction about the Word of God and what it says: You have to be led by the Holy Spirit. If you are studying and learning the Word of God to preach, this is especially for you. You don't want to deceive people with your words and interpretation. However, if you are moving in the Holy Spirit while preaching and then later find debate about a term you may have used out of context, don't beat yourself up. LEARN. You said what the Lord wanted you to say, if you really were letting the Holy Spirit lead you. If someone doesn't like what you said and can't lovingly correct, then they weren't focused on you being used by the Lord and really being led by the Holy Spirit themselves. They are just trying to make you feel inferior by sharing they know something you don't. Just remember that the only person who can make you feel inferior is yourself. Not even God wants you to feel like you are less than. You are the head and not the tail. Above and not beneath. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Teaching the Word of God opens up a life of scrutiny. You better be prepared to learn but also know for sure who you are in the Lord.

So what did I learn about the "soul ties": "Soul ties" may not be the correct term but the same idea applies. If you can so easily knit souls or become one flesh with people, we have to value the purpose of these gifts for togetherness and ministry. When we don't honor what the Bible says about unequally yoked relationships  and marriage, our emotions and feelings get entangled and hurt in the process. As we experience hurt, pain, anger, doubt, depression, and loneliness, we move further away from the Lord. If we are far from Him, He can't fill our spirits. So instead of seeking Him to be filled, we want answers, reconciliation, closure, or a replacement person to fill the voids. This may not be a "soul tie" but our experiences have caused us to be bound to the things of our past that we used to fill the void of God being our best friend, husband, father, and everything.

Ultimately, what did I learn about biblical inaccuracy and using the wrong terms: Pray, Study, Learn, Seek the Lord, Ask for Wisdom, and Be Led by the Holy Spirit in ALL that you do. The Lord will have His way and the Truth will be revealed anyhow.


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Friday, September 18, 2015

Fresh Start, Clean Slate, Starting Over, Yadda Yadda

Hello Angels! Have you ever had a moment in your life where you finally realized what you are supposed to be doing with your life, but your life as-is is so far from what you know it's supposed to be? Well, I'm here. If you haven't been here, you may find yourself here one day if you surrender your ENTIRE life to the Lord. That's how I got here. If you have been here and you have moved forward to do what you were called to do, I have a question for you.

Now What? Yes, this is my number one question. I finally know exactly what the Lord has called me to do but I am in a painful place in life where I just can't stop life as I know it. Logically, this is what I have to tell myself. This painful place feels like a comfy trap I've been in for years. Yet, in actuality, the trap was never a trap and I've always had the choice to stay or go. But the trap stays so comfy as my minimal (and I do mean minimal) needs are met. Every now and then, I even may get an incentive which entices me to stay even longer. How do I move forward to what I was called to do when it means leaving my comfy trap for the unknown.

I may have named it "The Unknown" but I've already characterized that place. Yes, I'll be happy doing what I love but what I love doesn't make money. Doing what I've been called to do is currently costing me the minimal incentives of the trap (a.k.a. my paycheck). The other part of my calling is dependent upon people liking what I produce and my influence. Lately, I've come to notice that while I feel like the Lord made me uniquely wonderful and special, the unknown is heavily flooded with people who are better and way more experienced than I am in what I've been called to do. I guess you can tell I am scared of the unknown. I can't deny that I am. I remember the feeling of having to ask my friends for money to eat or not eating at all. I remember not having money to buy the things I needed and never fathomed the thought of the things I might want. I remember wearing a pair of shoes until I physically couldn't wear them anymore. The thought of not having a steady paycheck takes my mind to those memories and further builds resistance in my heart towards the unknown.

So to those who have been here, now what? I've been praying, I've been fasting, and I've been believing that the Lord will show me how He is going to work all of this out.

I read a scripture.

And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief. (Mark 9:24 KJV)

Don't think that because I have questions and concerns regarding what the Lord is going to do for me that I don't believe that He will move. I know He is going to provide wisdom and provision. I know He will make a way for me. I know that even if I have to go through a season of lack that He will bring me out. Just because you're scared, you have doubts, and you have questions for God doesn't make you weak or have less faith. We are humans. Our spirit men will never completely wipe out our flesh; our iniquities are always there. But you have to ask God to help you believe in Him and His will for your life even when you just don't see how it's going to work.

This may sound cliche, but I'm starting over... again. I am going to make the steps to do what He called me to do full time. Little pay or no pay, it's killing me not being fully in the will of God for my life. Happiness is fleeting so I am no longer even looking for that. I am working towards a peace of mind.

In all you do, make sure you are led by the Holy Spirit and you are doing what the Lord has called you to do in that season. This is just a piece of my season I am sharing with you in case you are here, in a similar season, and you need to be encouraged. For those of you haven't been here, your season is simply not like mine and that is okay. With every blog posts you read and all the advice you receive, make sure that it is confirmed in your spirit by the Word of God and by God's instructions for you.

So Now What? I'm starting over. I'm going into the unknown. I can't stay here. I am not trapped; I have a choice. I trust in the Lord to provide. Everything is going to be alright. Yadda yadda yadda. SMOOCHES XOXO

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Friday, September 11, 2015


How do I do what? How do I manage to succeed at less than 10% of the things I try and of that success, only 50% actually gets enough of my attention for it to just be alright? Or how do I do everything for everyone else so awesomely and for free but I lose money trying to do things for my own projects and get minimum support, mostly from people I don't know? Or how do I manage not to do anything just right in my own eyes (or anyone else's apparently because I don't get compliments or acknowledgements on anything I may actually try to excel at) yet still have you ask me the question "Elisa, how do you do it all?"

How do I do this thing I call life? Jesus. Jesus is responsible for everything going well in my life. I am thankful for His faithfulness towards me in every area of my life. As you may have read through my cynicism and sarcasm in the previous paragraph, my life, just like everyone else's, is far from perfect. People either look at me in amazement, in disgust/disdain, or enviously/insignificantly when I tell them my age and just a little part of my life.

Amazement: "You have your own nonprofit?! You work where?! You have a degree in what?! You're attending school where?! Wow! That's awesome girl! Keep going! Don't stop! You can do it and you can do it all!"

Disgust/Disdain: "You're all over the place. You could make more money. You're just 25; you do too much. You don't worry about yourself. Don't take it personal. You're too emotional. You should live your life. At least you have a job. At least you're in school. You should be grateful. Oh you act so holy, you need to chill. You need to date. You could have a man if you want to. You should look like this. You should do this instead. Life is passing you by."

Enviously/Insignificantly: "Oh wow, that's nice." Crickets. Blank stares. Conversation about me that is none of my business because I am not there.

All of these are things people actually have said to me. And I have a rebuttal, excuse, argument, and/or logical reason for each thought or question people have put on me. So many questions and concerns has produced so much pressure.

Yet, the only person who can relieve the pressure of the "How Do You Do It" Dance in our lives is Jesus Christ. These questions and concerns always stop me in my tracks. But now, I know how to get over it. 

My life is not my own. When I wasn't trying to walk with Christ, He still chased me yet led me at the same time. Now that I am walking with Him, I have no choice but to trust Him. Trusting in His promise for you is an undeniable part of your journey with the Lord. If you don't trust Him, you're not going to let Him lead every part of your life.

So in the midst of all of the "How do you do it"s, I trust that my life has been strategically ordered by my Father who loves order. He is not a God of confusion so I no longer let these questions and concerns confuse what I know the Lord has told and shown me. I barely understand my own life sometimes and how I got to this particular place. Therefore, I don't waste anymore time trying to accommodate, address, or answer the questions and concerns corner in my life.

I don't currently, but I will and you should, direct the questions and concerns corner to Jesus and tell them to ask Him because He knows best about it all. You have the right and the ability to block out the noise of other people's opinions when you are focused on Christ and you know you are doing as He instructed you. You won't be perfect. But as long as obedience to God and His Word is your life's practice, you have to get used to blocking out people's opinions.

When you live a life in complete surrender to the King, every thing you do will be contrary to the world. So even people who are saved who may be holding on to pieces of their life won't get you and may feel convicted by you. Unfortunately, we as humans like to give conviction for conviction. Even though one conviction is an explicit response to a translated, assumed, or perceived conviction.

None of it matters though. This will feel like it matters. These occurrences will bring up emotions. These times will leave you alone with the crazy thoughts left behind. But you have to tell yourself that none of this stuff matters because Christ is running the show in your life. 

So if you happen to have questions or concerns about people, pray for them. I've just been asking the Lord to help me not to judge people or what they do. I take it to the Lord in prayer. I've realized that while it is not all the way possible, I wish the people in the questions and concerns corner in my life would handle my feelings with such care and just pray for me instead of trying to put their logic on me while the Lord has my life spirit-led. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. How Sway?! SMOOCHES XOXO

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